Have you ever thought about the word, “charming”? I recently began ruminating on the word. Dictionary.com describes the word as an adjective:
Charming – adjectivepleasing; delightful.
using charm; exercising magic power.
One of the interesting words of this description is “power“.
Charm: to act upon (someone or something) with or as with a compelling or magical force.
One of the things I was thinking about is how it seems to be a male descriptor. After all, Cinderella, Snow White, what the heck, the wicked Witch of the West, were never described as “charming”. But Prince Charming was most sought after…..
Prince Charming is a fairy tale character who comes to the rescue of a damsel in distress and must engage in a quest to liberate her from an evil spell.
Men don’t have to be handsome, nor rich (although it helps), nor even “fit”. They can be overweight, almost unattractive, and still win women over hands down by being charming.
Merriam-Webster defines “Charming”, as in Prince Charming:
Definition of Prince Charming: a suitor who fulfills the dreams of his beloved; also, a man of often specious charm toward women
Then I went and looked up “specious“:
specious – adjective
apparently good or right though lacking real merit; superficially pleasing or plausible: pleasing to the eye but deceptive.
But how many times have women been seduced by a charming man? Pleasing to our female egos, our need for male approval, but he may be possibly lacking in character or somewhat deceptive because he really just wants to get into the female’s good graces (i.e., her pants).
Tools a charming man uses? Flowers; lunches; a kiss on the back of the hand; playing a musical instrument for her; making dinner for her (feeding her is very charming and seductive); the possibilities are as endless as a charming man can design.
Know a “charming” man? What was your response? To share your story about “charming” make a comment below. If you are a “charming” female, share your story too.